I had a quiet, calm, relaxing day. I felt great all day. I did as I pleased and all of it was good for me.
I find it interesting that Pete's comments about positive, loving, nurturing reflected almost exactly my own when I was asked. I said that mom taught me about perseverance and commitment, but the most significant gifts and learning about positive loving relationships came from my siblings. I don't really know how we came to do these things so well for each other without them being modelled, but indeed, it seems so to me. I still treasure the love and acceptance that I continue to receive, that is totally undeserved. I don't mean that I don't deserve it, only that I never have to do anything to deserve it. It's the same with my kids and grandkids.
Today, I feel that there is enough for me, and that I am enough.
Love, elly
Interesting conversation about mom and dad. Peter and I have had similar, and based on our discussion, I would be interested to hear from more of the younger half of the family on this. I only have two kids, but feel I learned a lot from my experience with the first that I was able to apply with the second. Regardless, I'm happy you are feeling well and hope you can keep it going
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Hey Elly! What about this? Roo and I were talking, comparing our respective upbringing, and our relationship with parents, siblings etc, and as some point it occurred to me that while I didn't feel any nurturing directed at me, certainly I think it was indeed modelled by our parents....in their relationship with each other. Just a thought.
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Peter
And one other thing. Some how there's something wrong with your statement that the love and acceptance you get is undeserved. As much as you try to rationalize it, I think you're still just beating yourself down and trying to tell yourself you're not. The dictionary defines deserve as "to do something, or have or show qualities worthy of". By definition, one always gets what one deserves! At the very least you have to "be" who you are, to get what you get! I rest my case!
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