For me, being tired is maybe the worst thing, because I don't think clearly, often not realising just how tired I am. Being over tired also equates to negativity; who are you kidding about losing weight? what were you thinking? you are just a fat cow, accept it! Combine that with my gain this week, and yes I know some of it is fluid retention (thank you chinese food) and sorting some constipation issues, I was struggling yesterday evening. The biggest issue of course is the negative self talk, because I'm much more likely to listen to it. I did eventually have a small piece of cheeseand some water, went to bed for a good sleep and feel much better this morning.
It never ceases to amaze me how quickly I can turn from feeling good about myself and what I am trying to do to feeling dejected and discouraged. Thank god I have learned this lesson before and it comes back to me fairly quickly if I stay clean. If I delve into the food it's like I don't remember any of it...
Next week I will be starting negotiations with my employer and I am trying to think about how to prepare for the additional stress.
love is all you need, elly
well love and a plan!
"if you fail to plan you plan to fail" wish I could say, but too many to choose from!
I'd be careful with this feeling sorry for yourself shit! If Happy Old John reads it you're apt to get an earful!!
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Peter
I was just waiting for the invitation! NOT. There are all kinds of good reading on the subject of eliminating negative self talk. It sounds to me like you already have a good start because you seem to be aware of when it is happening. One thing that works well for me is as soon as I catch the negative talk, I replace it with something, anything good and positive. It can be something totally unrelated to the negative thought, but eventually, with practice you will see the positive side that is the opposite of your original negative thought. Tony Robbins suggests when you are visualizing a negative thought, to see it in your minds eye as only black and white, and not colour, see it as faded and out of focus, see it as dark and hard to see, until eventually, you can't see it at all. I have a book of his that describes this much better than I do. You are welcome to it anytime.
ReplyDeleteWhen I see you in my minds eye, I don't see fat or skinny at all. I see a beautiful, loving, giving, friendly, smart, fun loving woman who has accomplished much in spite of immense challenges. I suspect that is the view of almost anyone who really knows you.
Love happy old john
Love Happy OlD JOHN's response! Love all of you more
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